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Professional Advice About Counting Calories

Weight loss has become too commercial. 

It really has.  So much so that many, or even most, people think of “weight loss” as automatically a great thing.  It is not automatically that.  Let me go on to give my professional advice about counting calories to learn why.  

Calories in food. 

What we eat and drink has a purpose in the human body.  It supplies us with energy, “fuel” if you will, to go out and do the things we want and like to do.  It also nourishes us, strengthens our immune system, and yes, it can even keep our skin, hair and teeth looking beautiful.  

The purpose of food.  

If we don’t eat we starve.  Everyone knows that.  If we don’t drink enough water we will become dangerously dehydrated.  Everyone knows that, too.  So, why is society at large so ready to cut back, cut out and eliminate foods and beverages that are good for us?  Because of a picture in a magazine.  That’s one big reason why.  

Why do we look at others.  

Your answer to that is your own.  But, I do know, from coaching dozens of women for over a decade, having studied Fitness & Nutrition, holding 6 certifications in fitness and nutrition, and other training as well, that psychology plays a huge role in how we go about eating.  Huge.  

For some reason, women (perhaps men, too, but I don’t think they do as much of it) look at other women as competition.  Not just in the work place.  Or in school.  Or in any healthy sense.  No, they look at other women as possibly having an edge over them, looking “better” than they do, and hence, being in an enviable position.  

That’s crazy.  

Maybe so.  But, women do it every single day.  I hope, that if even one of you reads this post and sees herself in what I’m writing, that you take steps to change what could be the most self-destructive habits you ever have.  

Is saying “self-destructive” too strong a phrase?  No. Not really.  Because when we as women begin to starve ourselves, cut out healthy foods, and think we should be “just like” someone else, that puts in a bad place.  We live with a negative attitude that affects us physically, mentally and emotionally.  That’s why I call it “self-destructive”.  It touches every aspect of our lives.  

In this photo, I am 58 years old.

What about losing weight?  

Just losing weight should not be your goal.  I know.  You hear women everywhere saying “I lost 20 pounds” and the people around them applaud.  But that’s not all that matters.  What about strength?  Stamina?  Skin health?  Which, by the way, healthy skin and hair are good indications that a person is in overall good physical condition.  

It seems that few people are even asking those questions.  I guess I must be brave.  Because I do ask them.  

Counting calories.  

It’s the best way to shed unhealthy (NOT unwanted, mind you) weight, and give your body the right amount of nutrients.  Eat a wide variety of foods, always.  Unless you have a medical reason, you should never eliminate good, beneficial food groups, such as carbs.  

Counting calories is much more than simply getting a meal plan and following it.  You need to know where you are first.  Create a food journal, and not how many calories you currently intake on a daily basis.  Go online and search if you need to, but come to a reasonably accurate daily caloric intake number.  

Next, know what your healthy weight range should be.  Are you, say, 15 pounds above it?  OK.  This is the place to start.  

For every 150 – 200 calories you eliminate per day, will result in about a 10 to 20 pound drop in a one year period.  What??  A whole year???  Yup.  That’s what I said.  I do not promote quick-weight-loss or any other potentially unhealthy lifestyle change.  

Diet Tips

  • Don’t drop the calories from the good foods.  Keep the lean proteins.  Keep the fresh fruit and veggies.  Keep whole grains.
  • Drop the refined sugar, foods with artificial flavorings and artificial colorings in them.  Dump the junk! 
  • Be sure you are drinking 8 to 10 glasses of pure water every day.
  • Drink black, green or white tea with local honey in it once per day or more.  
  • Add cayenne pepper to your foods as much as possible.  It is great for you.  
  • If you eat potatoes, use low-fat sour cream on them with your favorite herbs on top.  
  • Use whipped butter and whipped peanut butter.  
  • Cook at home as often as you possibly can.  Makeover high-calorie foods.  
  • EXERCISE.  This is must be a part of your life.  Get outside, or stay home, whatever you prefer.  But, put 15 minutes at a minimum, of some type of planned exercise in your life every single day.  
  • Be proud of yourself.  You are not as beautiful as any other woman.  And, other women are not as beautiful as Y-O-U!  

Take care everyone, 




My entire life is about my family and building a beekeeping business with my husband- COASTAL HONEY BEES LLC in Stuart, Fl. I make skin-loving soaps using our own raw honey. Additionally: I write. Make videos from time to time. Consider offers for modeling and acting. MORE ABOUT ME Married nearly 33 years, I'm 62 years old (going on 35!) love love fitness and have two amazing children and one beautiful granddaughter. One of our kids is a 27 year old autistic son who I have home taught for the past 20 years. Our daughter is 32 and married and has an adorable baby girl. We have an amazing adult male labradoodle, and a baby labradoodle coming in December 2019! WHAT'S NEW Beekeeping! My hub and I have launched a beekeeping business! Very exciting! I'm in the process of formulating soaps and skin care items and will launch those lines soon.

12 thoughts on “Professional Advice About Counting Calories

  1. I have had problems maintain my weight since I had a throat infection last winter and was on prescription meds and had no energy to workout at all. I am up about 17 pounds as of September 1st and I’m getting so fed up. I eat all the wrong things and way too many carbs. I am putting your wise words to work in my life as of yesterday. I know what you say is correct, I just need to dig down and find the motivation I once had. Getting sick really brought me down.


  2. Oh you are so right! I once had a weight problem but even though that’s in the past, I still remember how it felt. I was depressed and insecure. Once I starting eating right and got into tennis, I felt like a brand new woman.


  3. During my 66 years on Earth, I am a lean 5’8″ and 135lbs. Usually. But there was a time when I went through a divorce that I ate every potato chip I could lay my hands on. I’d even get up a 3AM and wolf down a bag in the kitchen. Watching it down with a high calorie sugary bottled iced tea. Oh God! I gained just shy of 40 pounds and felt awful. I hated myself because I was weak. I lost my job because I suddenly caught every cold and flu bug out there and when I did show up I got almost nothing done. I had a fight with my neighbor to the point that she put up a wall. Not a fence but a wall between our houses. My sisters stopped talking to me because I was always yelling at them. I’m not exaggerating here. My life sucked and it was all because I had become a junk food junkie and nothing in my closet came close to fitting. Which was something. Job was gone. Money was short. And so I went to thrift stores and found whatever I could in a size 18. Nothing wrong with that, in fact I found some amazing deals, but, buying an 18 when your whole life you were an 8 is depressing. I looked older then than I do now, and that was 20 years ago. No kidding. Nancy, you are so right when you say it’s self-destructive to eat wrong and gain lots of unhealthy weight. I was a mess. You helped me to get fit, and throw away the scale. Now I’m a size 8 again no matter where I shop. That’s my size. It’s who I am. And I don’t ever want to lose control again!

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  4. I’m a plus size woman. Some of the time. I fight the food battle every single day. I was one of Nancy’s last clients so I was very lucky! I not only learned how to eat right, and not beat myself up when I don’t, but I go to my doctor every year now because Nancy refused to help me until did! I have my blood pressure under control, and my sugar count is normal. My weight fluctuates at times, mostly stress eating, but when I return to the step by step process Nancy taught me, I get my body back to the naturally curvy woman I am. God bless you, hon. You saved me from hating what I saw in the mirror. And yea, that sure was self-destructive.


  5. Did anyone else notice that Daytona pic???? The blue ‘kini is nice but love the car photo! Your advice is always intelligent. I follow it and have learned how to eat properly. No more stupid diets for me.


  6. It’s such a touchy subject. But it should not be. When I think about it there are so many other more important things to worry about than dress size. Especially when that’s all we are worrying about. Love your work!


  7. Heck yes. I see pictures of women who lost 50 lbs and I think that they must have something magical. I know it’s not true. But we all buy those products thinking it might work for us. Thank you for writing this. It takes guts nowadays. You are a real voice for good health.


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